Divorce is so common that the chances are quite good that you already know someone who has ended their marriage. You may feel like you know how Texas handles divorces because of the stories you’ve heard from someone who has already been through it. Still, one person’s version of events may not give you the whole story. Your second-hand experience of divorce could mean that you have a skewed perspective on what the process is actually like.
If someone you know went through an acrimonious, protracted divorce litigated in the courts, you may inaccurately believe that is the only avenue available. However, fighting with your ex in court isn’t the only way to end your marriage. It is also possible for people to file an uncontested divorce where they work together amicably to dissolve their marriage.
Even if you don’t currently agree with your spouse about potential terms for your divorce, that doesn’t mean an uncontested divorce isn’t possible. It just means you will have to work with your ex before you file.
Can you sit down and set the terms together?
For many couples, the simplest way to filing uncontested divorce involves a direct, if potentially unpleasant, conversation between spouses about their priorities and wishes. However strong your emotions may be, it is possible to set your feelings aside and work out agreeable terms for your impending divorce.
You should commit to the most important terms in writing, possibly by emailing one another or by having your attorneys write out the agreement. That way, you have a written record of the agreements and the terms that you set. For many couples, however, the idea of direct negotiations with their ex may put them off the whole idea even if they want to file an uncontested divorce.
Mediation is a great way to find a compromise that works
One of the downfalls of direct negotiations between spouses is that if one spouse has a history of or abusive behavior, that could influence the negotiating process. However, with your individual attorneys and a mediator present, it will not be easy for one spouse to bully the other into inappropriate or unconscionable terms.
While your attorneys can help you protect your self interest during negotiations, the mediator can provide a neutral perspective on what would be reasonable and fair. When you can’t seem to agree on terms with your ex, mediation can be a great way to resolve the details that were holding you back from an uncontested filing.
Going through the divorce process without fighting with your ex in court can be a faster, more affordable way to end your marriage. Still, mediation and other alternative dispute resolution tactics don’t work in all situations. For some couples, litigation is the best solution. Only you understand the nature of your relationship with your spouse and the best way to protect your interests as you move forward with the end of your marriage.